As the author of Fathers Matter I am frequently contacted by fathers about their ongoing difficulties in maintaining a relationship with their children after separation and/or divorce, and sometimes I am sent books. A few weeks ago I received a copy of Justice for Dad – a title that will resonate with fathers reading this post who have been or are currently embroiled in the legal process – with a covering letter advising me that, “Although the events are all true, the author wishes to remain anonymous to protect the identity of his family.”
Anonymous dad’s book is about his personal struggle to continue to be a father to his two children and to overcome the seemingly insurmountable obstacles – including serious allegation of abuse – put in his way to prevent him. It is not intended as a legal guide and the asides and comments made by anonymous dad throughout the book should not in any way be taken as legal advice, although the reader will gain an insight into the legal process and the pitfalls and numerous injustices that any parent struggling to battle with the system continues to face.
I found the book heavy reading at times, not due to any lack in the quality of writing, but as a consequence of the inevitably emotive subject matter, and the book is certainly a harrowing tale in parts. But at the same time it was uplifting that in the end the “right” decision was made for the children concerned. Anonymous dad refers to the book as a book of hope and I believe that where any devoted parent, male or female, is excluded from a child’s life there are catastrophic consequences for all parties concerned.
Caveat: Clearly this book is written from the father’s perspective and we only hear his version of events, and with any relationship we do not know what really goes on behind closed doors. However, I feel that anonymous dad has pitched his personal story well. The book is not a rant, and rather than displaying animosity towards his ex-wife who remains the mother of his children after all, there is a genuine sense of sadness about the events that unfolded but also happiness at the outcome of the case.
Thank you for reading this post.